Aurelia Williams has given me two free reports on life balance to share with my readers. Please help yourself and share with your friends:
You Deserve a Break - 15 different ways to “Take a Break”
Top 10 Ways to Reconnect with Your Family - 4 pages of excellent suggestions on spending quality time with your family.
I hope you enjoy them!
Do you ever wish you knew the secrets of that happy mommy next door? You know… The one who always seems to have it together while you feel like you need 4 more clones… What is she doing that you aren’t? Well, Aurelia Williams has released her newest Real Life Guidance Report and she is going to tell you.
Every other Friday is pay day (for my husband, that is). It became a natural and necessary thing to balance the checkbook and pay bills on Fridays. It then became a habit, a part of my life balance routine. After reading Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace, and accepting that some big financial changes need to happen around here, I have formally designated Friday as “Financial Friday“.
Financial Friday is my financial management day. I still balance the checkbook and pay bills, but I also work on debt management strategies. Using worksheets in Financial Peace, I am starting to analyze all of our income and spending on a monthly basis. With the gruesome details layed out in front of me on paper, I can see where changes need to be made and I am forced to face the facts.
I’m having a problem though. Debt busting and the ever-popular “snowball method” of debt reduction don’t work well for people who have no money left over at the end of the month. I’ve reduced every bill that I can reduce. Being a stay-at-home mom for the past five years has put a huge burden on our financial situation and we have acquired an enormous pile of debt. Yes, my website business has brought in some income, but not enough. We have more monthly expenses and debt payments than we have income. Many months we rely on credit cards to buy groceries and pay medical expenses… only compounding our problems. (Maybe I should have named this post “Confessions of a WAHM”.) Any way… Enough whining…
One Financial Friday at a time, right?
Article by: Aurelia Williams
Mothers are expected to possess huge hearts, big shoulders, a minimum of 3 hands, all the answers and the list goes on! What many mothers forget is they are not born with super hero powers to handle all of those things at once.
Mom = Stress. It’s a fact of life. Reducing stress is of the utmost importance to everyone, but especially mothers.
You know stress can lead to depression, heart disease, and an unhealthy mom. Did you also know your stress, if not handled correctly, can have a negative impact on your children too?
The most important things in a mother’s life, her children, are also the most influential. Children are sponges and everything Mom does they will, at some point in time in their lives, mimic. If children see their mother constantly stressed out, they will be more inclined to follow those patterns. What you do today can determine the kind of life your child will lead tomorrow, including how you make it a point to reduce stressful situations.
Mothers tend to overload themselves, which in turn overloads their children. Adults move at a much faster pace and their bodies are more adept to handle the speed of life. Children, on the other hand, are not able to function this way, which can lead to developmental and behavior problems in the long run if constantly pushed to keep up with an adult’s quicker pace.
Studies have shown a mother who is under excessive amounts of stress will hand out harsher punishments than one who is not. Prolonged stress can cause a mother to get to the point that she feels overwhelmed and will not stop to think before handing down discipline. This type of behavior teaches children it is ok to let your mood control your life as a parent.
Children need to feel a sense of security and know that their mom is there to help them work through and understand the stressful times in their lives. If children are not taught what stress is and why it is a part of their lives, they will never learn how to reduce it, therefore leading them down a path of unhappiness and unhealthy choices. Give them the tools early about how to deal with stress and more importantly, how to reduce the amount of stress that occurs in their lives.
There is no one who lives an entirely stress free life. In fact, you shouldn’t want your children to have a life with absolutely no stress. The day will come that a stressful situation occurs and they will have no idea how to cope with it, which is cause for an extremely negative outcome.
As a mother you must show your children that stress does not have to control your life. Mother’s have a tendency to try and do it all; even when they know they are not capable. STOP! Make a point, each day, to reduce your stress levels. Eliminating just one stressful situation can make a world of difference in the way you feel and how your children handle stress as adults.
About the Author: Aurelia Williams is a certified Personal Life Coach and author of Finding More Family Time.
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